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Imagine a couple, separating. The parents may still be connected in some fashion (most commonly by shared children). They may overlap in different configurations depending on situation, or they may not overlap at all.

What happens to the child in the center if the two parents are not within touch of each other at all?

A few possibilities are neglect, or feeling invisible, or being given responsibilities that a child shouldn’t have, like becoming a messenger for grownups, or even worse, a sounding board for grown-up feelings they are not ready to manage.

The fact is, divorced couples are never TRULY separated if they share children. (I realize there is a small percentage of exceptions.) The lives shared between them will keep them connected. And they will share some of the most important days of their lives as those children and grandchildren experience milestones.

Breaking up is hard to do. And breaking up when there are children involved requires courage, strength and skill if you want to do right by your kids.

Because kids don’t deserve additional pain beyond their parents separating.

That is pain enough.

#divorce #divorceabuse #parenting #loveathome #singlemom #singledad #kidsfirst #stepmommy #stepmomlove #growthmindset #courage

Every single one of you is touched in one way or another by divorce or step family situations. You, a friend, or family member. Am I right?

I will never forget the morning my husband told me he was leaving. I stood alone in my laundry room, frozen in fear and disbelief.

Never in my wildest dreams did I see myself in this situation. Four children ages 9 to 17. No career. A belief system that family was EVERYTHING, including ETERNAL, and worth all my effort to make it so.

I was paralyzed.

My first overwhelming concern was for my kids.

How would they ever be whole? How would we make it emotionally? Financially? Spiritually? Physically?

It’s been almost two decades since that moment in the laundry room.

Turns out, we ARE making it.

We are whole as humanly possible.

We continue to learn and grow from our pain.

Over the next few weeks, I want to share with you some things that helped. And some things I wish I had known back then.

Because I believe there is tremendous HOPE, and GROWTH, and JOY that can come as we move through these experiences if we are teachable and open. 📸: @meredithcarlsonphotography #divorce #divorcehelp #coparenting #singlemom #singledad #stepfamily #blendedfamily #loveathome #family #familygoals

I have been basking in the beauty of my conversation with @princesscello23 about practice and effort and partnering with our children as they face and embrace challenges. More in stories.

We choose our own future. We create our own joy.

Yes, I’m posting this again, because today I was schooled.
A word can change everything.

In my conversation on Instagram live with @princesscello23, I caught myself in some black white thinking.

As we practice whatever we choose to practice, we may go down a certain road for a while. It may not be one that brings the best result.

But here’s the deal. There is a tomorrow—a next week. And we can make course corrections. And “progress is not always, in fact, never linear”. If you loved the taste of what we talked about today, join us for our joint live webinar July 30. I’m so excited. Link in bio.

Children are wonderful teachers. Mine taught me:

Any object can defy the laws of physics when in the hands of a toddler.

Trust your instincts instead of leaning on the “sniff test”. The list goes on.

What life lessons have you been lucky enough to learn from your children?

We are always practicing. We cannot NOT practice.

It’s making conscious choices about HOW, WHAT and WHY we practice, that sets us apart from other animals.
Choosing to study and practice a musical instrument comes with exceptional challenges.

One thing we don’t want for sure is to have “practice” become a negative experience between parent and child.

Join me tomorrow at 2:30 PM MST for a short Instagram Live to share perspective—and hope!

GIVEAWAY!

Nothing makes memories like a good holiday tradition. And nothing makes a good holiday tradition more memorable than the music included in that holiday!

I’m so excited to be at the @utahsymphony #dvmf tonight to celebrate freedom and family.

Even more excited to share that same kind of opportunity with you!

I have four tickets to giveaway for next weeks Film in Concert, ET!!!! Here’s how you can win:

1 - follow @utahsymphony and @knowhowmomtips

2 - tag someone who would love to see ET movie in concert with you.

3 - for FIVE EXTRA ENTRIES, post a photo of your family engaging in some kind of musical activity (listening, practicing, or just plain enjoying a performance of any kind.) In the post or story, say why music is meaningful to your family. Tag @knowhowmomtips and @utahsymphony

Winner announced TUESDAY!

BONUS: Everyone’s a winner, because you can get discounted tickets to this concert on goldstar.com!

I hope to see you there!

“Liberty means responsibility. That is why most men dread it.” George Bernard Shaw 🇺🇸Happy birthday America!🇺🇸. May we never take this beautiful place, or each other, for granted.